Under Construction

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.  Proverbs 14:1 NIV

When I was a  young girl, my grandfather and uncle built houses.  Unlike the construction projects of the “cookie-cutter” neighborhoods that were quickly assembled in the 70’s, they took pride in their work and put integrity in everything they did.  They were good at building, their work sturdy, crafted with knowledge.  Their work ethic was remarkable.  I was privileged to “help out” in the summer time on several houses that they built, hammering nails (even using a nail gun), holding the plumb line, fetching supplies and cold water.  I loved those moments and cherish those memories with much fondness.  As homemakers, we have the same responsibility to build our homes (houses) with precision, diligence and excellence. 

The best way to accomplish this is to have a life that is built first on the Word of God.  The principles laid out in Scripture are solid.  No other foundation for our homes will be able to withstand any circumstance that tests it.  The most foundational of these truths is who God is and the provision He has made for us through the saving work of His Son, Jesus Christ.  Mixed with that, is the truth that God is absolute Truth and all wisdom/knowledge comes from Him.

Once that foundation has been laid, the building continues with the construction of a solid frame.  The framework of a house is the basis for strong walls that will withstand attack from the elements outside.  I believe that frame is made invincible by building a solid relationship with our husbands.  A married couples relationship will determine the strength of their home.  When they love each other and understand their God-given roles, the family is strong!  A wise woman will make sure that she is putting her husband at the top of  her priorities list, second only to her relationship with God.   Loving our husbands (physically, emotionally and practically) is an intentional act that  may take time to develop but is well worth the hard work that we put in to it.

With the foundation and walls of our homes properly built, we can begin to decorate our homes.  Love, laughter, friends, the smell of fresh baked apple pie, scented candles, but most of all well-trained children.  Yes, I said well-trained children.  They are the best adornment for any home.  I know… they make messes and are loud and busy, but they are, by far, one of the richest blessing bestowed by God.  A home full of children’s laughter and finger smudges is truly a good place to be. 

So… what are the giants that I face that lead to the tearing down of my own home?  I struggle with frustration (dealing with my children in a short manner, as if they are a bother, at times).  I allow too much of the outside in (mostly in the t.v. shows that I watch).  And I have been inconsistent with training my children to lead a disciplined lifestyle.  There, I’ve said it… I have much to work on, so if you’ll excuse me, I need to grab the spackling and patch some cracks in my home.  'Til next time, blessings on your home.